This past weekend, I cleaned my closet. Now, I know, that sounds like something uneventful. Perhaps for some, but not for me. It took me a total of 8 hours to clean the closet. I went through every article of clothing, every purse, every item hiding in the closet until I had purged it fully. I left no stone (or item) unturned in that closet. And, in the midst of my 8 hour cleaning spree, I had a revelation.
I realized that I had been allowing others to define things for me, without defining them for myself. Take my closet, for example. It was full of clothes that were given to me by other people, or things others thought looked cute on me but I had never really been quite sure. In my closet were items I was holding onto for nostalgia sake, and waaaay too many t-shirts. I had several “I’m going to fit into these again one day” dresses, suits, etc. And as I kept working, I wondered where the clothes were that expressed who Rasheeda really is.
Well, 8 hours later, the results were in. Here were the clothes that represented me
And this is all that I purged, or rather, donated to Goodwill:
Now, this may all seem silly to you, but it was a pretty significant moment for me. I’ve been going through a lot of growth and changes this year, and particularly in the recent months. I took everything over to Goodwill immediately (well, the next day), because I didn’t want to change my mind on anything. Over the next few weeks, I’m going to take some time to figure out what I like, what I really like, and rebuild my closet with those things.
For me, it really was my closet that needed the purging. But for someone else, it could be anything: your career, your spiritual life, your love life. Take some time, hours, days, whatever it takes, to do a very thorough inventory, clean out the things that you need to, and purge them for your life. The “closet” may seem empty, but that emptiness can be the most fulfilling emotion you’ll ever experience.